We Will All Face Times Of Uncertainty In Our Lives
Fear is such a powerful emotion, and it takes hold of both our body and our mind. It can be crippling at times, and literally paralyze us from moving forward. It is also a very natural response to threat, that’s either perceived or real. For our ancestors, fear served a purpose. It was helpful for immediate danger, like famine, or from predators.
Thankfully, we’re not traipsing around with woolly mammoths anymore, but clearly, it affects us in the same way, and serves a purpose for us as well. For example, we wouldn’t foolishly go and step off the side of a cliff, we wouldn’t handle a dangerous and venomous snake, and we probably wouldn’t hang around with people who have tuberculosis.
Fear ultimately is there to promote survival, and it has from the beginning of time. But today, it takes hole of us and keeps us captive. It keeps us from doing the things that we want to do in life. It takes hold of us and causes grief. Our mind is so powerful, and our imagination can run rampant. Thoughts of, “What if I fail? What if they don’t like me? What if I’m not good enough?” Those questions can plague everyone, and often they do.
I was listening to someone being interviewed who lost over 100 pounds recently; let’s call the person who lost the weight: Sue. The interviewer asked “Sue” several questions. He asked her what kinds of diets she had tried in the past, he asked her how she had lost the weight, and he asked her how many years it took for her to slim down.
And then he asked her the most important question of all, he asked her if she’s scared that she might gain the weight back.
Her answer to this question inspired me to write this article. She replied, as I have heard many people reply to this question. She said, “Everyday I am scared that I will gain the weight back.”
So let me help you, and her! If you’re scared that something’s going to happen, if you fear it everyday, then it’s probably going to happen.
If you fear being poor everyday, then you will probably remain poor, and if you are rich and constantly in fear, then you will eventually come to want.
Faith vs. Fear
We have something called anticipatory anxiousness. When you believe something is going to happen, you create a channel for it to happen. When you have faith, when you really believe something, you open the door to experience it. Faith is a channel that allows you to channel your desires into reality.
Fear is also a channel, and when you are afraid that something is going to happen, you create a channel for it to happen. Job said, “The thing that I feared the most has come upon me.” When you’re operating in fear, you have a “vision” of what you don’t want to happen. You begin to meditate and ponder that vision, and you will eventually live into that vision, whether you want to or not.
Am I Scared?
I’m not scared that one day I’ll be overweight. To have a “thin” mind means that you don’t fear being overweight. I don’t fear being poor; to have a “prosperous” mind means that you never fear poverty.
Where there is fear, there is unbelief. Unbelief is not-belief, it’s not faith, it’s the opposite of faith, and it will attract the opposite of what you desire; it will channel your fears into your life.
One of my favorite sayings is one that says, “You have to be willing to be uncomfortable for change to take place.” I think that’s so powerful. We love to stay in our comfort zone, and I get it. It’s easy, it’s familiar, and we don’t want to be uncomfortable. It’s just not innate in us. In order for change to happen, you do need to have some discomfort. Confront that discomfort by taking really small steps.
For example, say you have a fear of being in a social environment and talking in front of groups of people. I wouldn’t say, “Okay, go and do some public speaking.” I would first start off with talking to one or two people in a more intimate setting. Get used to talking in front of people and sharing your thoughts and feelings on a topic. By doing this on a regular basis, you’re more inclined to take more risks in the future and become more comfortable in those type of situations.
If I started gaining a few pounds, I have faith that I will lose the weight. If I was in fear and I gained a few pounds, then I would get scared (i.e. have a vision of fear).
I would fear that I was headed back to being over weight. The stress of it would cause me to eat more, creating a negative cycle and causing me to manifest what I fear most.
Some people say that fear is the best motivator…but I must disagree.
Fear is not the best motivator, the best motivator is a vision of what you want to become. When you have a vision, and you mix it with hard work and patience, you will have the power to manifest your desires. You will have the power to become all that you’re capable of becoming, you will have the power to succeed.